Toni Hargis
1 min readNov 6, 2022

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Where t start?

Most of the men in this piece are red-flagging themselves. If only they would read their words back they'd see what the problems are.

Jake - most women would only label a guy a creep if he failed to listen to the message that she wasn't interested. And that often doesn't happen. Too many men think that a "No thank you" is the opening gambit and it's still a negotiation.

Then there are others like Kane - who views every approach as a transaction that might result in a "payoff". Women are advised to run in the other direction from guys who think like this.

The biggest problem, that is mentioned at the end is that men are afraid of "rejection".

Seriously guys - learn to deal with rejection. Don't go off at a women if she won't accept a drink, don't get violent if she refuses your advances. We all know where that ends, and if you're giving off even a hint of those vibes, women won't want to know.

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Toni Hargis
Toni Hargis

Written by Toni Hargis

Co-author of “How to Stand up to Sexism; Words for when enough is enough”. Helping women find their voices. @ToniHargis

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