Not according to some people. If you don't want to swear, that's your choice. I literally say in the piece that you don't have to use the actual words. Tone-policing what other women might choose however?

Let's remind ourselves that in the situations I'm talking about noone is trying to win friends etc etc

That's the problem, you're falling into the age old trap of having to be nice to everyone. Sometimes it's not warranted.