Men contribute when they don't say anything.

Even microaggressions matter because we know from research that they can lead to more extreme language and even to physical abuse. We need men to step in and call it out when it's happening, whether or not women are present. It's not good enough to say you don't do this and that.

You may feel you haven't benefitted from patriarchal bias but you have. Until recently, jobs and education opportunities heavily favoured men. Men continue to earn more than women for like work, meaning that not only is current incomce unequal, but promotions and pensions are impacted since they are based on percentages of salary. Women end up with hundreds of thousands less in the pot at retirement.

You may insist you haven't benefitted from the patriarchy, but you also haven't been oppressed by it. That in itself is an advantage.

It seems that you are unwilling to listen to what many women on here are saying. You're even threatening to turn off comments, yet you opened the piece suggesting that your were going to anger some women.

Challenging what you have said is not 'hate' and it's just another silencing method to say it is.

In your piece and some of your responses, you're illustrating many of the problems women face in trying to talk about our issues. Tone-policing, stonewalling, and victim reversal.