I initially thought "Wow this is a difficult one" but no, it really isn't. There's a huge variety in families these days, and we have to find the language to live within them.

Many of us know families where the children have a different mother or father - this becomes part of their life. Ditto children who have lost a parent.

While tiny, this child is no different and it's the father's job to teach her how to cope with it.

As for asking what he is asking of his ex-wife, given what caused their break-up? A step too far.