I am not gaslighting you and I’m not telling you which experiences you can and cannot experience, but unless you were once a woman, I’m telling you that any experiences you’ve had are that of a man, fact — and that makes a huge difference.
BTW —
1. accusing me of telling you how to feel is exactly what you were doing to the author.
2. In fact it’s well recognized that bullies often use the response “I was only joking” or “You’re being too sensitive” to excuse and continue their behavior.
3. accusing me of being easily-provoked etc. is deflection; otherwise known as gaslighting.