Ah see, you were making some interesting points until this —

“i have always tried to approach all of my relationships under the premise of equality, but i see now more clearly that the inherent privilege of my gender and the accumulated privilege of being a recognized performer most certainly impacted this interaction.

Modern feminism, kids: a man apologizing for having the temerity to treat women as equals.”

His whole point is that his inherent privilege, both as a man and a performer, meant that he probably wasn’t treating them as equals. He’s saying that even tho’ he thought he was treating them as equals, he wasn’t. That’s the apology.
That was a jump too far for me.